I wrote this song for RUOK day. Especially meaningful this year, given a loss in my social circle; a fellow we all thought was okay… who wasn't. We're still trying to work it out. But it drove home that the inner life behind the game face is deep and it can get dark too in there. For some, intolerable even.
I also know that for every tragic loss, there are myriad saves, born of human connection. And conversation.
An ‘official’ RUOK day feels a little clunky to me. That’s okay though; conversations that matter are often clunky. But well worth it. Even for people who are generally ‘OK,’ dropping the game face at times, and getting real about what we carry in our hearts, and what plays on our minds… what a sustaining and transforming act that is.
This song is dedicated to all my beautiful friends and family who keep whole-hearted conversation alive and well. And to you, dear readers… I hope this day finds you well. If you’re struggling, may this song give solace and encouragement.
I’m OK, but crikey I’m tired
I was up half the night finishing the above video. I’m particularly pleased because this is my first multi track recording in my home studio, so a real milestone.
And then, I thought I’d brush the dust off the final cut pro app and make a video for it. I had rigged up a camera to my microphone when I recorded the vocals. Really wanted to get it out for September 14th, RUOK day. And I did!
Song Lyrics - RUOK
Are you okay?
If you say ‘No’ I’m not sure what I’ll say
But we can find our way
Whatever the weather
You know that we can travel together.
So let’s endeavour
To keep it real
Be willing to speak and say how we feel
Chorus
It’s okay if you say, ‘hey I’m struggling now’
It’s not weak it’s not wrong no, no no, no, it’s incredibly strong
It’s okay if you say, ‘hey I don’t know what to do’
It’s a truth that together we are stronger than me or you.
Are you well?
I know some days we’re busy as hell
There’s work to be done
Hiding the pain
That can work quite well for some
But for how long?
One thing I’ve found
The way through is sometimes down
[Chorus]
Game face and grit
I would never devalue it
The push on and commit
And it’s fine
To keep to ourselves our state of mind
It’s good sometimes
Silence and voice
Just remember we have a choice
[Chorus]
Are you okay?
This is terrific, Brett. I suspect it will get traction. And whether or not it does is ‘ok’.